An Orthodox, pious Jew has sex only when his wife is ritually clean - about two weeks a month. And what is this Jew to do if the Almighty endowed him with a extra strong toyva (sexual appetite)? He suffers and he blogs:
As if it is not hard enough to maintain some Taharas Aynayim (purity of the eyes) during the year, the hot days of summer make it no easier. The general Hefker (abandonement to sin) feeling over the summer combined with the lack of clothing on the street breeds tayva (sexual appetite). AHHHHHH!
Here's the solution, we should have a national yom tefilla (day of prayer) by all the guys like us, and daven (to pray) for cold front, followed by a mid-july blizzard. That'll teach 'em!
There is a serious question to ponder: If a guy can not resist shichvas zera levatala (masturbation), does he give up on trying to fight it altogether and simply focus on the rest of his growth, accepting that it is a part of him that he will never overcome? Or does he struggle from one week to the next on a constant roller coaster ride of good days and bad days, beating himself up for his mistakes, and feeling a sense of overall spiritual worthlessness?
We are all trying to grow closer to Hashem (God) and to our families. Yet somewhere in our minds, we live a life that doesn't permit us to shake hands with women, but if given the opportunity to sleep with a gorgeous woman, we would do it in a heartbeat, without hesitation. That is the reality of the problem, whether or not it makes any sense.
Despite the fact that women think they know what it is like to have a strong Tyva for sex, in reality, they have no clue, and are unable to objectively offer sympathy and understanding.
Several men commented about thinking about sex every day, hour, minute or second of the day . . . women can not relate to that overburdening feeling, and the distractions associated with it.
We will never get any sympathy from our wives, because, generally speaking they are unable to comprehend it. It is important therefore, to be careful to work on these issues without airing it a spouse. Begging and asking for more sex at home will not likely help, rather make you look pathetic, and make her feel cheap and used. When then time is right, as we all know, it will happen. I actually love that my wife uses the Mikvah (ritual bath) on a monthly basis (even though we don't touch for 2 weeks) because when she does, it is a time that I can look forward to, without feeling like a pathetic pest.
Such are the sufferings of the Jews.